What Does It Take To Change Ones Life?

I love change. I thrive on it. So much so, that 3 years ago I packed up my life in Australia and moved to Mexico. When I told people what I was doing, I was often met with ‘Oh God, how can you? I could never do that, aren’t you afraid?’

 I love change. I thrive on it. So much so, that 3 years ago I packed up my life in Australia and moved to Mexico. When I told people what I was doing, I was often met with ‘Oh God, how can you? I could never do that, aren’t you afraid?’

Yes, part of me was afraid, but I had learnt to embrace fear and to trust my inner guidance, which told me to go for it!

I like to think of change as stretching your comfort zone. It can be uncomfortable. This applies to any kind of change, including changing habits and beliefs. 
 
It’s uncomfortable because it’s unfamiliar.
 
It is like flying to a new country on your own.  You may have dreamt about it for months and felt excited about the possibilities of being there, but when you get there, your fears rise up.  You start to question whether you can do this on your own.
 
Sometimes we get to the point where we start to see change happening, i.e. we stretch our comfort zone, then we freak out because it’s unknown territory. We contract back to safety, back to our comfort zone. We fly home.
 
Well, I want you to know that you can do it! Once you embrace the change you are facing, or want to make, you will come out the other side stronger, more alive and invigorated. You just have to make the choice to do it!
 
In the meantime, here are some tips that will assist you to navigate the change you may want to make…
 
Activate Your Will
 
In most cases, that something that is not working in your life becomes so great and so painful that it forces your will to kick in. You make a firm commitment to move forward.  You say: ‘I don’t want to do this anymore, I need to change this!’ 
  
Your will gets you to your yoga mat each day or to sit for meditation. Your will helps you to develop awareness about your tendencies and how these are creating your experiences.
 
Your will drives you towards joyous, beautiful and life affirming experiences.
 
To help strengthen your will, place your hand on your solar plexus and visualize that you are breathing the energy of the sun into this space. Say to yourself ‘Its my time & I’m ready to take the next step.’
 
Take Small Steps
 
If you need to change a habit or an attitude, take small steps. Introduce it slowly.
 
If you are a beginner to meditation and you try to meditate for an hour a day, chances are you are going to give up quickly and feel like you have failed.
 
If however, you start meditating for 5 minutes a day, this is more manageable and achievable.  Once you have this habit in place, it will be easier to step it up to 10 minutes a day, then 20 minutes further down the track.
 
Taking small steps will help you to say ‘Yes, I can do this!’
 
Understand The Payoff For Not Changing
 
There is always a payoff for everything we do, both positive and negative.  Ask yourself what the payoff is for you to not change something in your life?
 
If you are a victim for example, and blame others and situations for your unhappiness, the payoff may be that you receive attention, and even admiration, when you recount your victim stories.
 
If you know that meditation makes you feel better but you don’t do it, the payoff may be that you are avoiding the possibility of failure.
 
Analysing your payoffs will help you to understand why you are resisting change.
 
Ask for Help
 
Sometimes we need support from others either from a friend or a professional, in order to help us to change. We just need to allow ourselves to be vulnerable enough to ask for help.
 
If you want to put a yoga practice or daily meditation in place for example, work with a yoga teacher who can help you to stay on track. If you want to make dietary changes, ask a friend to support you by doing it with you.
 
Change is so much more palatable when we engage with it socially and ask for support.
 
Write Down What Change Looks Like
 
Write about what the change looks like to you, or make a vision board, or something that gets you excited. Create something that reminds you daily about why you are taking action.
 
Feel that you are already in this place, the place you want to be, and trust that you will get there.
 
Embrace the change you are making and know that by taking action, you are making a powerful statement that you are showing up for you. 

Enjoy the journey!
 
Much love,
 
Teagan

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